These two kept me laughing all year with their randomness! The sister was a bit worried about the brother and metnioned it to me regarding his toothbrush. She said he hadn’t even unpacked it from his “ditty bag,” so she was worried he just might not be staying! And then I got the picture text that showed his toothbrush in the toothbrush holder…it made my day. See, it’s the little things that speak volumes.

Then, Keith and I were grocery shopping when he gave me the “cheer up you can get through this” speech. Then he said how about we put them a care package together! Oh my goodness! He created a monster in me. I found myself mailing them fun random stuff let’s just say…often. I would even alternate mail places so people wouldn’t think I had a “compelsion!” It settled down when the Fed Ex people actually stole his wallet from one of my care packages. (that information is for another post probably creataively titled how NOT to mail a care package!) I did know it was time to settle down the sending of care. The kids told me to stop because the people in the front office know them by name and apartment number! This from the mom who when they went to church camp in Alaska I got the address before they even left and sent scads of letters so they would have mail!

I love that when it was time to celebrate Cole’s birthday, my one kid of 4 who doesn’t have a summer birthday, that she pretty much did everything for him that I would have done but without me even telling her to. I got face timed for the opening of presents and blowing out of the candle! We say all the time…how DID our parents do this!? When we ever tried to call Keith in college you had to hope someone answered that pay phone in the downstairs hall; then hope when they said they were going to get him they actually did, or at the very least, if they didn’t…someone came along soon enough and hung up the dangling phone!

I do know we got through it! Horray for summer! I do know I loved the communication and the planned visits between semester breaks. Over Easter break I was probably at my weakest. They got in late and we were surrounding the kitchen island when Tiffany mentioned that she left one of her textbooks she needed at home. Yep…she said “home.” I tried so hard to conjur up those brave eyes!!! But Cole with his piercing quickness in one glance at me as I was trying to be brave saw and called out: Are you about to cry mom!?! We all do it! I even spent their childhood telling them at holidays and vacations excitedly that we get to go home! Only for them to say…but we are home. They are on their way HOME this week!

You might think this next paragraph is a Hillary Clinton commercial flashback about getting that phone call at 3:00am. It was the early early morning hours of mother’s day. Like in the middle of the night. My cell was ringing at 4am. It was Cole asking had I spoken with Tiffany yet. In my fog, I was thinking the kid who never calls is calling to scoop his sibs and like be the first to tell me happy mother’s day. But instead he said he didn’t know where she was and wondered when I last had spoken to her or did I know where she was. Fog lifted. My brain began sensing his concern. I did receive a happy mother’s day words with friends word from her at 1 in the morning: Alien. I replied to her with great thanks that I will take that compliment that I am completely different than any other! But that app didn’t tell me where she was…they have been havaing crazy study days and finals that their sleep patterns are all messed up. He was asleep when she left for her Saturday evening final…was in and out of sleep so didn’t really have contact. She actually was at her friend’s but both of them had fallen asleep to a movie. She called me at 5 am asking had I called the police yet!:) I replied, No but close. I had hung up with Cole and started creeping every social media outlet I have: facebook, twitter, instagram, pinterest. Keith, Hardy Boy that I love, was alrady silently creeping her bank account chiming in what she last spent. Now, that is always fun! But in it all I whispered a prayer asking Him who knew where she was to help us find her:) She said when she called finally that she had just randomly awakened and saw her phone blitzed with my texts and missed calls. I had blitzed all the people close to her and was moving on to personal messaging those of fb who had recently posted anything to her wall when she phoned! What an answer to prayer! So I began with the sister being worried about the brother and end with the brother worried about the sister.

Posted in Cole, Tiffany | 2 Comments

She Hid It From Both of Us


I had the best surprise today! I picked up Caleigh from school and she pulled this out of her backpack. Of course I screamed! I was thrilled to have it. I did however ask if she forgot it at school and that is why I am getting it today; she said, “No, I hid it from you and me…apparently!” Classic Caleigh.

Posted in Caleigh | 3 Comments

The Send–Off

Now that I know they are headed home I can title this just the send off. Pretty sure it would be the sad send off had it been written a year ago. Who am I kidding. It was a horrible day. I remember one of the toughest of my parenting! A part of my heart was walking out that door! I am pretty sure I am the one who put on both of their “Freshman 15!” I love the look on Cole’s face. It reminds me so much of the brave face he had on one time when he went with Big Daddy and Mam Maw to Toys R Us to pick a prize. He actually picked the scariest dinosaur and was afraid of it but picked it to try NOT to be, but the look in his eyes told me he was just being so brave. Those brave and courageous eyes showed up on this day. I got a glimpse of them. It settled me down just a bit. I knew he would be just fine. And indeed I spent a little time wiping tears now and again at random thoughts, but at some point I had to find my brave eyes too.

Posted in Caleigh, Cole, Kevin, Tiffany, Uncategorized | Leave a comment

No Party No Open House Just FOGO

And the graduation day continues…we celebrate differently depending on the one at the center of such celebration. Cole likes steak. He can eat lots of it. Lots! FOGO De Chao was the perfect place to celebrate. And it was pretty close to the stadium I might add. Closer than our house! And this place brings the meat around on a skewer as long as you let them. It was a perfect thing to look forward to especially since Cole could have cared less to even walk! So we ate steak…drove home and we ate cake!

Posted in Cole, Uncategorized | Leave a comment

His Final Final!

This will be the blog post that has clogged my blogging self all year! I can only conjur why I have delayed; it is called denial! I have walked around all year thinking about blogging Cole’s gradutaion day. I blogged Tiffany’s. I have not been able to bring myself to this place…before my keyboard…until today. I have it in my head so much that when I actually remember that is the only place it is…well…it’s shocking! I set myself a deadline over and over. I told myself to not post another thing until I got this accounted for in my “accidental legacy.” And yet the light hearted and fun posts appeared. Today, however Cole is even as I write this taking his final final of his freshman year at Texas Tech University in Lubbock: Calculus III. So, this is for me. I should be able to do this knowing my boy is coming home this week!!! Of course I can totally let the pictures speak for them selves…and for the record it was actually June 2, 2012.

Posted in Cole, Uncategorized | Leave a comment

Such A Sweet Mommy Moment

Pulled out all of my @MomsInPrayer self praying with Caleigh for her Star test she takes today and just the sweetest thing happened during our prayer together. She reached up and hugged me and kissed the top of my head; in that moment I was shown yet again how powerful the praying of God’s word is over her. And of course somewhere in there popped out some me-isms…maybe because she recently signed up to be on her gator swim team I prayed she would just chomp it up and devour it! She chuckled:) But mostly stuck to His words: that He would strengthen her and show her she can do this with His strength having confidence and focus praying Philippians 4:13. The gesture I did is something I sometimes struggle with because of how busy things can be. Hectic chaos. I am feeling happily blessed today and will forever remember my free-spirit-day-dreaming-daughter loving, thanking, agreeing with my prayer. Thank you Lord for Your word…

Posted in Caleigh | Leave a comment

Happy Birthday Dad!

I Love My Dad!!! I know my kids joke about their nick names in the family and try to lay claim to the favorite child, the beloved child, the spoiled one…and possibly just possibly if we asked my brothers and sisters they might just say I was all of the above! (Now Steve, Carrie, Keyna, Patti, Bill, John, Jim I said IF) They “say” because I was “born on his birthday” I was like the ambassador to dad. Not that we ever even said those words but it went without saying along with when this phrase was heard: “ask dad,” this girl was the one doing that asking. Brave. No telling what they got me to ask for before I could remember! The real magic phrase that got him or, for that matter, anyone was “but mom says!”

This picture captures so much. First, our special birthday dinners. We always had a dinner and cake. Just knowing we got to pick what kind of cake and what we wanted for dinner was a treat. And we had first dibs and sole rights on licking the beaters and the bowl! I think we can probably all name what each other picked too kind of like knowing what day the chicken and rice is served at Cracker Barrel! Even though Kenya’s birthday is in May by golly we knew we were having turkey and dressing! And second, my dad’s expressions. Now I know where my kids get their faces! I love at our holiday gatherings at photo op time we don’t say “silly shot!”…we say ok now everyone make one of dad’s faces! They are the best!

See what I mean?!? Well, and this brings me to another thing we share besides our birthday. We hate balloons! See my dad’s face–it absolutely captures it all. And to my kids you now know why after grocery shopping or birthday parties where you might walk out with a balloon but I never let you in the car with one–at least not without a court order! I always said they were a hazard to the driver, or I made you let them go and y’all thought they were just going to Jesus and He was saving them for you. Well! It kept them out of the car and my driving down the road making my dad’s face above! Couldn’t do it. Nope. Not happening! What is happening is I am blessed to share my special day even across all these miles with my dad. Have the happiest of birthdays dad!!! I Love You!
(You’re Thirtieth Birthday Present)

Posted in SteveCarrieKeynaPattiBillBethJohnJim | Leave a comment